Self Talk

I started a class on language which includes both verbal and non-verbal communication in conversation and interactions among clients, friends, family, and even strangers. One of the thoughts that really struck me is how much the words you say, or your body language, can affect your beliefs. 

You talk to yourself more than anyone. Have you ever stopped to consider what you are saying to yourself that may be affecting what you believe about who you are and what you bring to the table? Is your mind littered with negative self-talk? What are you saying to yourself that is true and what is baseless? What beliefs have you developed as a result of what you say to yourself?

We have a tendency to distort things, spiral, or get angry and let our brains run wild. We say so many things to ourselves that are not grounded in reality but the more often we say them, the more likely we are to believe them. If you tell yourself every day that you are unworthy, you’re going to start believing it. The same way if a partner or a boss repeatedly said the same thing. But if you tell yourself that you are proud, confident, and prepared for what’s ahead, you’ll believe that too.

Similarly, your body language can affect your thoughts and beliefs. When you walk into a room with your shoulders back and your head held high, you’re more likely to feel confident than if you were to walk in hunched over with your head down. The idea is that when you take up space with your body, you feel empowered - like you are supposed to be there and be heard. When you shrink, your body is telling your brain that there’s no room for you. 

This week, consider what your own communication is saying to you about who you are. Are you coming from a place of power? Are you taking up space? Are you walking into rooms like you are supposed to be there? Are you encouraging yourself to make moves in your personal and professional life? Are you believing in yourself the same way you’d want a friend to? 

The way you communicate with your words and body language has an impact. Use that communication wisely. Focus on powerful body language that signifies confidence and composure. When you speak to yourself, use encouraging, positive language. Allow yourself to make mistakes without spiraling. Pick yourself up and be your own best friend. Your thoughts become beliefs so use those thoughts wisely. 

If you want to learn more about powerful communication and how you can use it to your advantage, contact me. Let’s get to work.